Showing posts with label ego. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ego. Show all posts

September 28, 2010

Stuff and Smile

Proverbs 27:7 When you've stuffed yourself, you refuse dessert; when you're starved, you could eat a horse.
 The word STUFF means to stop or cram, choke back. In an emotional sense this is when we don't tell how we feel. We don't rebuke when we should. We don't communicate our hearts and minds. We are STUFFED. It says here when you stuff yourself you also refuse dessert. We often think of dessert as a sweet at the end of our meal but the original meaning comes from the root words Dis-serve and means TO CLEAR THE TABLE.  If you are STUFFING your emotions then you also are refusing dessert (clearing the table) you are not allowing yourself to CLEAR THE TABLE otherwise known as clearing the air .. to communicate and understand. When we don't clear the table bitterness and grudges can form because we are just stuff it and smiling or moving on. We are NOT DEALING WITH IT!!! We are thwarting ourselves.
We also STUFF the good and that leads into the next part of this verse.
 It says when you're starved, you could eat a horse. What happens when you are starved. I know when I am starved I will eat junk and I will want whatever is quick and easy. Immediate results. We have a responsibility to uplift and encourage people whom the Lord has put in our path. If we aren't doing our part then those around us are starving including ourselves. We will take flattery, ego-pumps, and other emotional junk food. We will eat a horse....even if it is the fabled Trojan horse. The Trojan horse was suppose to be a gift but within it were spies and infiltrators. That is what we will eat if we are starving.
 So don't stuff and smile ....clear the table (have a clear conscience and emotional cup) & feed your neighbor (uplift and encourage) so that we all are not STUFFED and STARVING -Fake and settling for a Trojan horse!!
 F and L'er
Starla

September 16, 2010

A LOST CONNECTION

It is hard when you try to communicate with someone and they refuse to hear you.
Telling how you feel is hard enough but then to withstand the initial rejection and not fall into the PITY POT can get hard sometimes.
When you see a loved one behaving badly and it is a perpetual thing....ignoring it is not the answer. !!!
But to speak up risks splintering the relationship that so-called  "playing friendly" has created...but the barbs in your soul are just as painful when you are silent.
The fear that things with never be right...the doubts that scream in your mind -THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE !!!
The guilt when you finally speak because you had been stuffing it so long --you feel like you are to blame, your mind and emotions playing games saying "you could have said something sooner.".."you brought this on yourself."..LIES ...all LIES!!
It comes down to TRUTH!
Are you willing to be honest?
Are you willing to wait out the rough patch while the other person tries with all they have to prove you wrong out of the SCREAMS of their EGO?
Are you willing to pray and read the Word and Stand on it, resting in it?
Are you willing to choose NOT to be easily provoked?
Are you willing?
We say: I will not be walked on any longer!!!
 But if we speak up and confront in Love and Truth ...it may feel like they are still walking on us ( no immediate evidence does that) but really they are just hitting a standing wall. BE patient!! BE resilient!!
When God begins to walk you through a trial...HE CAN BE TRUSTED...!!!! He will make a way...Do not faint or become weary in well doing.
Do not give into the flesh that wants to scream its rights in the face of the perpetrator.
Be at rest....Be calm....Know that God has a plan....He will perform all that He has promised to those who are His!
Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
Proverbs 29:25
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.