Reality Check

Sometime we get complacent...

 

Ever been there? Satisfied with the way things are.

 

And if we are not careful we can move right into apathy...

 

unemotional, unaffected, and generally just not interested.

 

Nothing wakes us up better then GOD

 

He wants us engaged and plugged in....feeling fully our lives...being present...

 

Keeping our eye on the NOW

 

and preparing for the tomorrows of our lives and letting go of the yesterdays.

 

God sends many things to wake us up....

 

LOUD PEOPLE --to show us our intolerance

 

IRRITATIONS - to show us our impatience

 

SICKNESS of LOVED ONES - to show us our disconnection

 

One of my New Years Resolutions was: WAKE UP & BE PRESENT

 

This is not as easy as I thought....but I will not give up.

 

The point of it is to be open to the ways God will bring me a WAKE UP CALL.

 

Then be willing to be present........

 

even when I want to HIDE

 

even when I want to DENY

 

even when it HURTS

 

Thanks for listening...just a little mental purging :0)

 

F & L'er
STARLA

 

 

How God made you!

I found this quote this morning .....

 

"My mother sat me down and said, ...you are beautiful to me but must know that you are beautiful for yourself. You should also be aware that true beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which means that how beautiful you are to other people is always going to be subjective to who is looking at you at that time, and since you will always be looking at yourself first, you should find your own beauty and feel good about who you are." She went on to tell me that I needed to take the time to identify those things that I found to be beautiful about myself but also celebrate what I thought was weird or unusual because those were the special things that God had given to me that made me different from everybody else. I learned how to appreciate, embrace, and enhance those special things so that they would shine rather than be hidden...We learned to love and identify with what made us uniquely beautiful."

 

BeNeca Ward  (born 1976);
Author Of "3rd Generation Country, A Practical Guide To Raising Children With Great Values"

May we all begin to see ourselves like that :0)

 

Have a great tuesday!!

 

F & L'er

Starla

Appropriate Trust

I was clicking on my phone in the app STUMBLE UPON ...if you have never tried it check it out. You can find some really cool stuff.

 

I came upon a page that had the definition for APPROPRIATE TRUST.....

 

What do we normally think of trust being from say in the context of relationships :

 

*the ability to not fear harm in a relationship

 

*something committed or entrusted to one's care for use or safekeeping

 

these definitions just be the way they are worded provide the thinking that the person trusting someone else expects the other to do them no harm and to keep safe their heart and mind ( what they know of you)

 

So here is the definition that I found :

 

TRUST: to trust that your partner or friend will behave according to their fundamental nature.

 

Fundamental: principals or basics that are foundational

 

Nature: the instincts or inherent tendencies directing conduct, characteristic disposition; temperament

 

This kind of trust then becomes a stretch to our inner being. We tend to believe that people should think and do things like we would. So matter of trust and truth become interesting interactions between people. So to trust that someone will behave according to who they are....frees them from having to behave according to what we think....and vise versa.

 

Suddenly the dynamic matters of expectation within trust issues must fall.....

 

and that brings in the option of CHOICE....

 

We can choose those who think and act and are as close as like us....

 

or we can choose to bear with, endure, learn patience with those who aren't  like us....

 

BUT EITHER WAY WE CHOOSE ---we will have to use this trust in all our relationships. 

APPROPRIATE TRUST...to trust that your partner or friend will behave according to their fundamental nature.

 

Interesting info and thoughts

F & L'er

Starla

 

 

You and Your Spouse are Unique

#1089   You and Your Spouse are Unique

Torah principles give us the wisdom and concepts that are needed for a harmonious marriage. But just knowing these ideas will not automatically guarantee a happy marriage. Torah ideas need to be internalized and practiced.

You have strengths and weaknesses, positive qualities and faults - and so does the person you marry. You have a unique life history; you came from a specific family - and so did your spouse. You have a unique genetic makeup, with a unique combination of intellect and emotions - and so does every other human being on our planet.

Your temperament, personality, communication style, and myriad other factors need to interact with the temperament, personality, and communication style of your spouse. This will inevitably create many challenges. Your response to these challenges will either create problems, pain, and quarrels... or will be the source of great spiritual and emotional elevation.

(From Rabbi Pliskin's book "Marriage" - Introduction, p.13)

See Rabbi Pliskin's new book "Life Is Now"

 

Trial run

A trial run...

 

You never know till you try!!

 

F & L'er

Starla