How God made you!

I found this quote this morning .....

 

"My mother sat me down and said, ...you are beautiful to me but must know that you are beautiful for yourself. You should also be aware that true beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which means that how beautiful you are to other people is always going to be subjective to who is looking at you at that time, and since you will always be looking at yourself first, you should find your own beauty and feel good about who you are." She went on to tell me that I needed to take the time to identify those things that I found to be beautiful about myself but also celebrate what I thought was weird or unusual because those were the special things that God had given to me that made me different from everybody else. I learned how to appreciate, embrace, and enhance those special things so that they would shine rather than be hidden...We learned to love and identify with what made us uniquely beautiful."

 

BeNeca Ward  (born 1976);
Author Of "3rd Generation Country, A Practical Guide To Raising Children With Great Values"

May we all begin to see ourselves like that :0)

 

Have a great tuesday!!

 

F & L'er

Starla

Appropriate Trust

I was clicking on my phone in the app STUMBLE UPON ...if you have never tried it check it out. You can find some really cool stuff.

 

I came upon a page that had the definition for APPROPRIATE TRUST.....

 

What do we normally think of trust being from say in the context of relationships :

 

*the ability to not fear harm in a relationship

 

*something committed or entrusted to one's care for use or safekeeping

 

these definitions just be the way they are worded provide the thinking that the person trusting someone else expects the other to do them no harm and to keep safe their heart and mind ( what they know of you)

 

So here is the definition that I found :

 

TRUST: to trust that your partner or friend will behave according to their fundamental nature.

 

Fundamental: principals or basics that are foundational

 

Nature: the instincts or inherent tendencies directing conduct, characteristic disposition; temperament

 

This kind of trust then becomes a stretch to our inner being. We tend to believe that people should think and do things like we would. So matter of trust and truth become interesting interactions between people. So to trust that someone will behave according to who they are....frees them from having to behave according to what we think....and vise versa.

 

Suddenly the dynamic matters of expectation within trust issues must fall.....

 

and that brings in the option of CHOICE....

 

We can choose those who think and act and are as close as like us....

 

or we can choose to bear with, endure, learn patience with those who aren't  like us....

 

BUT EITHER WAY WE CHOOSE ---we will have to use this trust in all our relationships. 

APPROPRIATE TRUST...to trust that your partner or friend will behave according to their fundamental nature.

 

Interesting info and thoughts

F & L'er

Starla